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10 or fewer unforced errors can be defined as your standard of excellent performance. If you reach your goal, you will allow yourself to feel just as much satisfaction as if you had played with no errors. |
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You are going to be constrained in your ability to feel greater satisfaction by the restricting unconscious psychological programs of which you are unaware but that continue to exert powerful influence. And this is where the help of a good psychologist can be of added value to what you are able to accomplish on your own. |
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Assigning Good-Enough Performance |
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In learning to break the connection between satisfaction and performance, it is helpful to keep a record of your degree of satisfaction in performing various activities. You can do this by recording various activities in which you assign a good enough performance rating to projects. |
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This exercise is helpful for two reasons. First, it encourages you to define and refine your expectations in realistic, attainable terms. Second, it helps you set up the conditions to give yourself approval and feel satisfaction upon achieving your goal. If you set your terms too high, you will see this clearly as you continue to keep your record. You can then lower your objectives accordingly. |
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This exercise forces you to realize the difference between perfect performance and good enough performance. It also allows you to feel satisfaction even when you don't measure up to good enough performance and even when you fall short of your goals and even when you don't think you will derive much satisfaction from an activity. |
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First, identify the activity. Then decide what you want your good enough performance to be. Put it in objective, measurable terms, if possible. After you have tackled the task, enter (as a percentage) how close you feel you came to achieving your good enough performance. And in the last column, estimate the degree of satisfaction (again as a percentage) that you derived from your performance of the task. |
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Working with this record form for a few weeks will help you think in terms of measurable performance until it becomes second nature. In this way, you are less likely to judge yourself as falling short simply because you don't feel like you have performed perfectly. It will require your subjective judgment in assigning a percentage score for how you measured up to your objective goals. And, of course, your assessment of how satisfying the activity was is also purely subjective. |
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